Cervical orgasms & stimulation: a BS-free guide to deep erogenous zones
Cervical orgasms are perhaps the most polarizing type of orgasms. Some people feel like their cervix and the surrounding areas (the vaginal fornices) are made of angelic white light. Others can’t fathom that playing around a body part associated with pap smears and childbirth could be remotely pleasurable.
Because I fucking love the cervix, I’m diving in deep to discuss:
- What my cervical orgasms feel like
- It may or may not work for you
- Techniques for stimulating the cervix
- What research has found
For me, cervical orgasms are mega-doses of oxytocin
I find that cervical orgasms feel like the strongest hit of oxytocin (the “love hormone”) I could possibly take. I’ve described them as “melting me into a puddle of heart-eyes emojis and oxytocin.” They’re full-body implosions centered in my womb, less like waves of pleasure and more like jets rocketing up.
Cervical orgasms are the reason I stopped having casual penetrative sex. I can have my clit rubbed and licked without getting attached, but if someone penetrates my vagina just right and massages behind my cervix, I’m literally fucked. I don’t claim to KNOW much about love, but cervical orgasms FEEL like the answer to every question I’ve ever had about it.
Every body’s cervix is different
I know what some of you are thinking: “The fuck are you smoking? Getting bashed in the cervix hurts!” Yes, direct bashing into my cervix hurts, but it hardly ever happens for me. Inserted objects slide easily behind my cervix, where the pressure usually doesn’t bother me at all. I say “usually” because when I’m menstruating, my cervix hangs lower and is more tender, so it takes more finessing.
I get it: some vaginas can’t take deep penetration from a dildo or penis without cervical pain, and that’s okay! Perhaps their vaginal fornices don’t expand as much as mine do. Some won’t feel much sensation or pleasure at all.
As well, the majority of vulvas need external clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, so definitely try adding a clit vibe or finger on the outside.
On the flip side, while penises don’t readily fit in front of my cervix, you might find it easier than me and love A-spot stimulation with a partner. Find what works for you! The bottom line is that the size of the vaginal fornices varies from vagina to vagina.
What you like is not set in stone
You may also find that you initially don’t feel much pleasure from cervical stimulation, but come to love it over time. As a teen with my first dildo, I experienced a relatively mild cervical orgasm. But while I could reach clitoral orgasms easily, I didn’t experience a cervical orgasm again for another 4 years. From there, it just got more consistent and more intense as I learned more about myself and my sex toy preferences.
Cervical stimulation is just another flavor of self-pleasure to sample. Taste freely, don’t feel pressured to like anything, and remember that everyone’s tastes change over time!
How to stimulate the cervix and surrounding areas
When finding the cervix and the vaginal fornices for the first time, I recommend trying with your fingers before moving on to a toy or penis. It’ll be easier to aim precisely so you don’t miss the spot, or worse, bash directly into the cervix and cause pain.
Also, if the person is menstruating, I recommend proceeding with care or waiting for a different week entirely. During menstruation, the cervix hangs lower and is more sensitive.
If you have problems reaching deep enough, try having the receiving person bend their legs closer toward their chest. This shortens the vagina a bit and makes it easier to go in deeper.
Finding the anterior fornix (A-spot) with your fingers is similar to finding the G-spot, but you go deeper into the vagina. Instead of curling your fingers to apply pressure just past the pubic bone, you do so pretty much all the way in, in front of the cervix. To find the posterior fornix, do the same, but behind the cervix.
Update: At the time that I wrote this, I wasn’t very familiar with my own A-spot. It turns out that the most sensitive area in my anterior fornix is independent of my cervix. It’s also a little shallower than where I’d stimulate my cervix if I was going into the posterior fornix.
And, of course, try different variations! Twist your fingers or swirl them around the cervical os. My favorite is curling fingers in a “come hither” motion while my partner swivels his wrist so he gets all 180 degrees pressing into my cervix from behind. Try two fingers. Three fingers! Try having your fingers facing the belly button side or the back. I personally like both techniques in my posterior fornix.
Enveloping an average-to-long dick isn’t alone enough to induce a cervical orgasm in me. Basically, I want it to be like a consistent massage, with the penis all the way in and taking short thrusts so that it stays in contact with my cervix. Jackhammering with long thrusts takes the attention away from my cervix and its fornices; the penis spends more time in the shallower parts of my vagina.
Taking your time is also very important. The receptive partner has to be aroused in order for the vagina to relax and tent/expand to full length. And, of course, arousal is a precursor to orgasm.
Take advantage of positions that offer deep penetration, like doggy and missionary with legs pulled to the receiving partner’s chest.
My favorite dildo for cervical stimulation is the Laid D1. It’s 1.46″ wide, thinner than most dildos I use, but rigid with just the right amount of curve to massage my cervix. Its asymmetric design ideal for slow internal grinding and twisting.
Another favorite is the girthier and more drastically curved VixSkin Johnny, a dildo I’ve written one of my most popular reviews about. Finally, the Marc Dorcel SO is a rigid but budget-friendly all-arounder if you want both cervical and G-spot stimulation.
UPDATE: the Chrystalino Champ is also versatile AF, for stimulating the cervix from behind. The Chrystalino Gallant is a good moderate girth A-spotter for the front. If you want something more girthy and bumpy for simultaneous G-spot and A-spot stimulation, try an Avant D3 or Avant D4.
What do scientists have to say about cervical orgasms?
As with many topics in female sexuality and orgasm, the research is in its infancy.
Dr. Barry Komisaruk and others mapped the regional brain responses of women in an fMRI machine while they self-stimulated via the clitoris, vagina, or cervix. There were discernible differences in the responses, depending on where the stimulation occurred:
The pudendal nerve connects the clitoris, the pelvic nerve carries signals from the vagina, the hypogastric nerve connects with the cervix and uterus, and the vagus nerve travels from the cervix and uterus without passing through the spinal cord.
And because the vagus nerve doesn’t pass through the spinal cord, stimulating the cervix can even bring some people with spinal cord damage to orgasm when they otherwise thought hope was lost.
When a skeptic disputes whether cervical orgasms are real, that means that there’s research left to do— nothing more and nothing less. That doesn’t mean that cervical orgasms aren’t there. It would be some serious horseshit to insist that people who experience cervical orgasms are delusional, liars, or don’t know their bodies.
It was only about 20 years ago that Helen O’Connell started documenting the internal structure of the clitoris.1 Let that sink in. It took us that long to accept something so basic to understanding female pleasure. Of course the less common cervical orgasms are less well-studied.
What matters is having fun!
There’s really one main question I (and probably you) care about: does knowing about cervical stimulation add fun to my sex life? Yes!
Sure, I could dissect that question. Is the feeling comparable to clitoral orgasms I’ve had? Is there a peak and release in pleasure that induces vaginal contractions? Does it melt me into a puddle of heart-eyes emojis? Do I feel closer to my partner after experiencing cervical orgasms? Do cervical orgasms give me all the benefits of orgasms?
Yes to all of these questions. I highly encourage other people with cervixes to experiment with it and be open to the possibility. Cervical orgasms changed my sex life. I know that I am certainly not the only one, so I’m going to keep shouting it from rooftops.