"What made you try fist­ing?" my straight friends asked me.

Frankly, I had always found fist­ing hot. I had fist­ed a woman before. I knew that receiv­ing a fist was some­thing oth­er peo­ple did, but I thought it was a lofty goal for me.

That is, until I lis­tened to a per­son­al account of fist­ing on the Dildorks pod­cast. The first-​person per­spec­tive made it feel like much more of a pos­si­bil­i­ty to me (though try­ing the Vixen Randy def­i­nite­ly helped).

CrashPad's Guide to Fisting, a half-​hour pro­duc­tion by Shine Louise Houston, gives me the same feel­ing; it makes fist­ing look inti­mate, relat­able, and not-​so-​scary. The main word I would use to describe it is "acces­si­ble".

The format of Crashpad's Guide to Fisting

It starts with the relat­able sce­nario of Lorelei Lee want­i­ng to try fist­ing with Beretta James, who responds, "I don't want to hurt you." They togeth­er sam­ple CrashPad's pre­vi­ous porn clips of fist­ing and give a quick sum­ma­ry of how to do it right, before try­ing it themselves.

It's more or less a porn­cep­tion. You're watch­ing Shine Louise watch­ing porn of Beretta and Lorelei watch­ing three dif­fer­ent CrashPad porn clips. These include Maybelline and Mariah Cherry Christmas Special, Jacqueline Woods and Stefani Special, and Red and Javier.

Positive examples of enthusiastic consent, safe sex, and aftercare

It shows safe­ty and enthu­si­asm being sexy instead of just say­ing it.

The receivers tell the givers when to add fin­gers, when to slow down or back off, when to take a break to do some­thing else, and so on.

Lorelei and Beretta use lube and gloves when fist­ing, and a con­dom on their Hitachi Magic Wand.

In one clip, a giv­er tells a receiv­er to relax. In anoth­er, the giv­er kiss­es and caress­es the receiv­er gen­tly before and after an intense fisting.

Even if you might oth­er­wise think that ver­bal com­mu­ni­ca­tion dur­ing sex isn't nec­es­sary, fist­ing isn't the time to be skimp­ing. Crystal-​clear com­mu­ni­ca­tion on both ends is so, so crit­i­cal when it comes to a kink that most of my friends would find extreme or scary.

Hot and wholesome

When I think of fist­ing porn, the first thing that comes to mind is an ama­teur clip of some­one hav­ing fist­ing done to them. If it's a part­ner scene, it's often the receiv­er lying down, being pen­e­trat­ed by a dis­em­bod­ied hand and wrist. And that's not inher­ent­ly bad. I get it: fist­ing is hot, and some­times I just want to get my jol­lies off quickly.

However, fist­ing porn often miss­es the oth­er side of such an inti­mate exchange: the look in the giver's eyes as they see their receiv­ing part­ner get more and more turned on and hav­ing uncon­trol­lable, scream­ing orgasms. I know the look, and I know how hot it is to have a part­ner scream in my mouth while I'm kiss­ing them. I wish more porn empha­sized that desire as a two-​way street.

The cam­era angles real­ly show­case enjoy­ment from all par­ties involved, includ­ing smiles and gig­gles. As edu­tain­ment porn should. In CrashPad's Guide to Fisting, Shine Louise makes fist­ing look whole­some and hot at the same time. That com­bi­na­tion is exact­ly what the world needs more of.

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Disclaimer

I received a press pass to watch CrashPad's Guide to Fisting from PinkLabel​.tv in exchange for my hon­est, unbi­ased review. All opin­ions expressed are entire­ly my own.